Growing up, the fear of being gay was being efeminate. It was more about, “not being a man”.
I never felt, sexually, comfortable in my skin and that, I think, was exacerbated by the fact that I was, not only recognisable, but had this very strange nickname everywhere I went.
So it made me less of a raconteur to be called “Doogie” then be acne written at a standard.
I was in “Rent” with this incredibly diverse gaggle of people, gay guys that were like “Fukyou, this is who I am, Snap, Snap.” And straight guys that were super OK with gay people, and gay people that were super not OK with straight people.
And that opened my eyes a lot. I thought, oh wow, you can, kind of, be who you are, and let the chips, kind of fall where they may.
So I wasn't really conscious of like, “Oh my God, if I come out, I'll never work again.” I just wanted to make sure that.I presented myself in a way that allowed me the most opportunity to work.
I do think that it's difficult for someone who's got a syllable arse, who's talking a lot, even if they're really masculine, if they're talking with, like, a hardcore lisp, it's hard for them to be the football quarterback in a movie.
I got on the TV show “How I Met Your Mother” and I figured, that's interesting.'Cause I'm playing, like, a very, very overt heterosexual on that show.
I met David Burtka in New York.
I was walking down the street one day.Friend Kate with this James Deen looking dude. There's like Kate, my child, this one. And she's like David, Ah, no, he’s totally gay?” I was like, “ really?” (laughs)
We started dating very quickly actually and, like a nice lesbian couple, moved in after, like, three months. And we sort of have never been apart.
I don't think that kids need a father and a mother necessarily. I think they need male, and female role models, but I don't think that means that we shouldn't have kids because we're two guys.
We don't encourage our child to only play with Barbies, but if our son picks up a Barbie doll and wants to play with it, OK. Parents need to be more accepting of who their kids are and less concerned about who society thinks they need to be.
Such an interesting time now, I think, because the gay visibility is so prevalent. You can watch The Amazing Race and see a gay couple fight, argue, and win General normal, mainstream middle America that doesn't get out and witness a lot of diversity. I feel like they get that diversity through television.
Now, there are so many examples. You can't just put the gay in that little" "gay box" anymore.
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